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Brian Fahy - October 8, 1981 to August 28, 2010


Posted: Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Brian Fahy
One last story in honor of Brian Fahy.  He grew up in the Neponset section of Dorchester and had many friends throughout the Boston area.


The Story


I got a call from Damian at six o'clock in the morning. 

"Mom," he said, "I really need your help.  It's very important.  I'll tell you about it later." 
"Damian, you can't just say this and not tell me.  I need to understand what's going on." 

"A friend of mine died this weekend." 
"Damian, I'm so sorry."

It doesn't matter how many times the announcement comes.  Being told that someone's life is over is traumatic.

When Damian said, "A friend of mine died," I remember feeling shaken to my core.  Almost no matter what thought is on my mind, hearing about someone dying pushes everything else away.


Will was asleep when I knocked on the door and very groggy when he answered it. 
"I didn't get much sleep," he said.  "I was comforting Butch all night.  He was the last of our friends to see Brian alive and I think he feels really guilty."

"What happened?"  I asked. 
Will said: "He was murdered.  The first we saw on TV was his car with all four tires slashed." 

Will paused and I imagined that same weapon being taken inside. 
"And is that how he died?"
"No, he was beaten to death with a bat."


Oh, my God!   What can you say to comfort those who know that the death was inflicted, that the death was violent? 

Death itself is difficult enough to deal with.  Adding on the gruesome drama imagined over and over makes it many times worse.

"How did you feel, Damian, when you heard the news?" 
"I didn't believe it." 

"How did you feel when you found out it was really true?" 
"Disgusted," he said.  "Brian is the last person that should have happened to."


I can't tell you the number of times I burst into tears and yet I didn't know Brian.  What in the scheme of existence could possibly allow this to occur? 

We say to ourselves, he had so much to live for.  We looked forward seeing him falling in love, raising a family and growing into old age. 

It's then that death begins to wear a different face, one less frightening and more inevitable.


No matter how long we live, there is always an endpoint.  Whether we die early or die late, what counts is the nature of life to that endpoint. 

Damian tells me that Brian came to our home.  I'm glad he did. I'm so glad I got to share in his spirit.

Brian had so many friends and was so deeply loved.  His legacy is the joy and energy and caring he brought to the world. 

His spirit will continue to live on - for a long, long time.


Brian Fahy
October 8, 1981 to August 28, 2010 
May he rest in peace.

Funeral service: Thursday, September 2, 2010, 10AM

St. Ann Parish Neponset
243 Neponset Ave
Dorcester, MA 02122
617-825-6180


Donations may be made through the website:  http://funds.gofundme.com/k110 or directly to the family.


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